Master the Instinct to Matter

The route to self-development might look different than you might expect. That’s because the best way to personal and professional growth, to be a leader in your life, starts from within. Doing Inner Work ® is the gateway to ourselves. The first skill to develop in our coaching is introspection. Becoming more aware of your own patterns, needs, and goals lays the foundation for personal growth. Introspection leads to emotional regulation, self-efficacy, and resilience. This is the secret sauce!

This coaching program is designed to help you master mental toughness, emotional resilience and self-awareness, giving you the tools to stay grounded, no matter the stakes. With my coaching you will move beyond standard management tactics and improve the "soft skills" that drive hard results, helping you:

·       Lead with Presence: Replace reactive habits with intentional, thoughtful responses.

·       Empower Others: Unlock the potential in your team through compassionate accountability.

·       Sustain Performance: Achieve high-level success without sacrificing well-being.

Ultimately, you will walk away with the ability to lead with true clarity, creating a profound impact on both your professional trajectory and that of the people you lead.

I have chosen to offer Emotional Intelligence (EI) coaching because I know that if you want to be your authentic self and feel fulfilled in life, you will need the motivation and skills to take you all the way. EI gives you the most consistent and effective way forward by helping you align with your values and focus on your true potential.

Choosing a career is a big deal. It's about so much more than deciding what to do to make a living. When you think about the amount of time you will spend at work, it will become clear why this decision is such a big deal. Expect to be on the job approximately 71% of every year. So, you need a plan!

The stating point is learning more about yourself. It will help to determine what you want and need from a job while exploring different options will let you do trial runs in potential roles and industries.

EI will not only help you to be more innovative, authentic, and resourceful . it will also help you understand and effectively navigate the emotions/feelings, thoughts and motivations of all those around you.

Your EI is the foundation for everything else in your life. If you can get that base right, the rest will slide steadily into place.

When it comes to personal development, it’s hard to not reference Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. According to Maslow, your basic needs need to be fulfilled in order to reach your fullest potential. In other words, to reach self-actualization, means we are reaching the highest levels of self-awareness, self-confidence and mattering.    

I believe that EI coaching can significantly enhance your personal development. I know it can give you the skills and motivation to maximize your effectiveness and reach your goals more quickly. It can do that because it will enable you to:

• objectively assess your skills and abilities

• reflect on your overarching goals and connect them to your values

• set more immediate objectives and avoid pitfalls

• use emotional data (yours and others' emotional reactions) meaningfully and effectively in decision-making and relationship development

Striving to be the best you can be through personal EI coaching leads to a deeply fulfilling life and the development of impactful behaviors and motivational habits. All this will allow you to excel in your personal development and enhance your career and relationships every day of your life.

By focusing on your EI, a coach will equip you to deal with the emotional states of yourself and others, decrease intrinsic lethargy and ineffective leadership performance, and increase your self-confidence and self-efficacy. It will also teach you how to handle ambiguous problems and challenging relationship conflicts, reframe your limiting beliefs and recurring negative self-talks, and replace old ineffective habits and passive behavioral patterns with new, more constructive ones.

Your IQ refers to your Intelligence Quotient and deals with intelligence only in terms of brain power. Although valuable for many purposes, it lacks depth because there are different kinds of intelligence and IQ does not take into account the ability to work with people. Whether you are working in an office with your colleagues, leading a team, overseeing a project, or working directly with customers, you are interacting with others and need to know your Emotional Quotient (EQ) which measures your EI.

EI refers to emotional and social skills, which affect:

• the way we understand and express ourselves

• how we understand and interpret what others say and do

• how we handle challenges and regulate our emotions

• how we maintain and develop social relationships

With EI tools, you will be able to communicate more effectively, establish healthy assertiveness patterns, strive for a victor mentality, and take on a new identity as an inspired leader.

Improved EI through EI coaching will help you transform your career, develop your relationships, connect to your “why" and, at the same time, markedly improve your personal and professional lives. In recognition of the importance of EI, I have chosen to become and to call myself “a personal and professional development coach.”

Therapy focuses on healing an emotional or behavioral problem, or dealing with a disruptive situation. It tends to concentrate on the narrative and the past.

Coaching, on the other hand, focuses on heightening your functioning so that you can achieve excellence. Coaching can also be therapeutic and healing, but that is really a side effect of the process.

Consulting differs from coaching in that it assumes you do not have the answers. The focus is on providing solutions, transferring knowledge and training to solve a specific problem.

Coaching, on the other hand, assumes that you have the resources you need, and it helps you to access them and learn new tools to sustain your motivation and connect to your inspiration.

During coaching, we will define what excellence means to you. Then we will amplify your existing potential to reach your career and relationship goals. By focusing on developing your EI, a coach can

According to Coaching with the Brain in Mind by David Rock and Linda Page, Ph.D. “Once it fires, it wires!" New discoveries in the field of neuroscience are being made every day and some of the most exciting are those that involve the phenomena of “neuroplasticity.” ”Neuroplasticity” is the ability to rewire our brains at any age. Coaches take advantage of “neuroplasticity” and other mechanisms in order to help their clients bring mindful attention to creating new habits and beliefs and, thus, form new neural pathways. For example, when a coach and client try out new perspectives, a set of neurons fire together. This wires a new pathway, a new neuronal connection that can be reinforced with repetition. With homework, inquiries, and support, the coach helps you to reinforce this new pathway in the client until it becomes automatic, integrated, and embodied.“

Coaching is highly valuable to anyone who wants to change and is willing to work towards their new future. The way you change your current reality is by changing the way your think, process feelings and act. Thus, coaching plays the role of a catalyst in creating your desired future and holding you accountable to get there.

Some people think that only athletes or CEOs of the top multinationals use coaches. This is not true. Anyone and everyone can benefit from personal/professional coaching. When you want to improve your personal and professional lives you need an expert who will challenge you to raise the bar and empower you to achieve more than you ever expected. This expert can help you to leave your comfort zone and explore your genius zone, identify your wants and hold you accountable to welcome required changes.

For a three-to-six-month commitment, the cost is up to $1000 per 60-minute EI session, usually scheduled weekly or bi-weekly. It includes two EQi-2 assessments: one to measure your current EI level in the beginning and another one to measure the boosted EI level at the end of your coaching journey. Once you complete 25 sessions, you will be qualified for one of my monthly subscriptions with a discounted hourly rate and life-long access to InLight Coaching’s resource library of articles and infographics.

Some people will work with a coach for three to six months. Others will benefit from a longer engagement. How long coaching lasts depends on your goals, commitment to grow, openness to be challenged and ability to live your life from the position of “there is no box at all.”

If all this is something you are interested in, then I'm looking forward to meeting you and helping you boost your EI to achieve your career transformation or relationship development goals or make your mark in the world. To find out how coaching will make you feel, how it will get you thinking, and how it might change your current reality, get in touch today for a free 30-minute consultation.

I have some lovely, heart-warming testimonials on my website, publication of which was approved in advance by my clients. However, except for these testimonials, I guarantee your privacy. In keeping with the ICF Code of Ethics, what we talk about and what we do in our sessions remains strictly confidential.

If you would like to leave a testimonial, anonymously or otherwise, I’d be thrilled, but you are under no obligation to share any part of your coaching experience.

Example#1: I recently worked with a VP of Customer Success Management who wanted to replace his controlling communication style with a more genial, influential one. Initially, he wasn’t aware that communication starts with attentive listening but soon learned about the three different levels of listening that can create a transactional, positional or transformational communication. Then he explored the behavioral patterns of his communications. As a result, he identified the passive and aggressive elements of his communication style that often had unintended impacts on his relationships with others. After he was able to abandon these and become focused on having more transformational communications, he was able to devise several concrete steps that transformed his controlling leadership communication into a truly influential one.

Example #2: I worked with a VP of Business Development on her life-work balance issues. During our first session she exhibited a great deal of stress, which I was able to learn was because she was feeling overwhelmed and burned out. With our coaching, she learned that stress creates a great deal of energy and can motivate us for a while, but is not sustainable. The eventual result is lack of energy and burn out. Even during our first session this client realized that the value of a proper life-work balance didn’t even appear on her list of her five main values. Subsequently, she remedied this by creating a road map which would honor this value and provide the necessary architecture to make it a permanent part of her life. Specially, she designed an alliance with her boss and her team so that she began voicing what she needed from others and her own needs and wants were honored. As a result, as a first step in realizing her values, she took two weeks off to replenish her energy. Once she came back to the office, she implemented her road map and "raised the bar” for her reports by actively challenging them. Also, she began delegating more work and used the results to better connect her reports with their potential and increase their engagement.