The 100/100 Assessment

Where are you on the Mattering Map?

Most people assume relationships are 50/50 — you bring half, they bring half. The Mattering reframe raises your own bar to 100 and calls the other person to bring 100 too. Eight questions. Four about the 100 you bring. Four about the 100 the rooms around you bring back.

Part One — What You Bring

Internal self-talk

1) How does the voice in my head usually sound?

Self-efficacy

2) What is the gap between what I intend and what I actually do?

Confidence in relationships

3) What happens when my needs collide with someone else’s?

Beliefs about what is possible

4) When I think about the next chapter of my life, which story is louder?

Part Two — What the Rooms Around You Return

Significance — feeling seen

5) Do the people closest to me actually see me?

Appreciation — feeling valued

6) How is my contribution received in the rooms that matter?

Investment — feeling supported

7) When I am struggling, what actually happens?

Dependence — feeling needed

8) If I stepped back from my life tomorrow, what would shift?

One last reflection

9) Which of these is closest to how you actually feel?